"I can't believe he slept through that landing," other passengers remarked as we all tried to recover from the nausea induced by a windy, bumpy descent.
I smiled at my sleeping baby. There is nothing quite like the phrase "As we begin our final descent" to make the squirmiest baby suddenly relax and take the long-sought nap that has eluded him for an entire plane flight. Luckily, it had been a short flight, and I was sitting next to a kind woman from Canton, Michigan who knew the same parks and cider mills I did. Jacob was equal parts smiley and squirmy until he was sleepy.
As I set Jacob down to take a picture of him and tug my oversized backpack out from under my seat, his eyes flickered and he was awake again. No matter. He would sleep again in the car. Once out of the plane, I retrieved the umbrella stroller, put Jacob in, and walked into the Detroit airport. I was back.
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My reason for visiting Ann Arbor was simple enough -- I wanted to see the people there. Although several of our friends had already moved, there were still several I wanted to catch before they scattered themselves across the country and world. So when I found cheap airplane tickets I began planning my trip. I decided to only take Jacob -- not only was he free to take, but he also didn't throw tantrums. I was looking forward to the break.
The airport was just how I remembered it -- the sky train, the restaurants, the escalators. The only luggage I had checked was Jacob's car seat, and then I waited outside for my friend Camille to pick me up. As we drove back to Ann Arbor, she and I caught up and talked about upcoming changes in our lives. When we were close to Northwood, I asked if I could stop by Kroger to get something healthy to eat. Travel food is a blur of granola bars and airplane cookies that coat your teeth with sour sweetness, and I was desperate for something else. Once in the checkout line, I recognized the checker. He had always given Joseph lots of Kroger stickers and made faces at Matthew. He looked at me quizzically once or twice, and I wasn't quite brave enough to exclaim, "I'm back in town, and the first place I wanted to stop was Kroger!" I settled for normal politeness, no, I did not have a Kroger card, yes, thanks you have a good day too.
And then we were back in Northwood. It had the same foresty smell as before, same rustic look. I ate my small veggie tray and then did what I had been an expert at on lazy weekday mornings and calm Sunday afternoons. I pulled out a stroller and began to explore.
It felt instantly natural to be walking there, maneuvering the stroller past the sand-covered sidewalks and Cozy Coupe graveyards. On that first walk, I saw just a few friends, but each subsequent time I went around the circle over the weekend (or later, around the hall at church) I saw more familiar faces. Pokemon Go had come out during my last summer in Ann Arbor, and in some ways my trip felt like a version of that game. Even if I could only chat for a minute with someone, I wanted to catch them all.
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I tried to make the trip as pleasant as possible for myself. "This is a vacation," I reminded myself. "Do what you want." Besides walking around and around Northwood, I wanted just a few things. I wanted to go to a stake service activity and see as many stake people as possible.
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| Hey, someone's got to do it! |
I wanted to take Jacob to the Wave Field and watch him crawl around. I wanted to play the piano for people who had encouraged me to keep on composing. I wanted to eat chips in the Jacksons' house. I wanted to go to the Quinns' to learn about Moldova and liberal democracy. None of these were exciting plans, but they made me genuinely happy.
In some ways, it was a good lesson in just learning to ask for things. Under normal circumstances, I try to pay people back when they do favors for me. They watch my kids one time, so I offer to watch them another time. I drive sometimes, and sometimes someone else drives. But on this trip, there was no "other time" for me to repay people. Regardless, I still needed the rides, still needed a bed, still needed the company, even needed the babysitting a little bit. So, I surrounded my requests with effusive gratitude and decoupling phrases ("It's okay if you can't! It's not super important!!!"), but at the end of the day all I could do was ask, not offer. I threw myself at the mercy of the ward, and I discovered that they were ready to catch me.
Do you want a place to stay? Just ask.
Do you want a ride to and from the airport? Just ask.
Do you want to tour a carillon? Just ask.
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| More on this later! |
Do you want to stop by your Jordanian friend's house to pick up tea crackers for Joseph? Just ask.
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| My friend also gave me a lot of sage, but I felt like a TSA agent might think it was something more problematic if they happened to search my bags, so I left it with friends in Michigan. |
Do you want a key to the church to practice for your recital? Just ask.
Do you want to know how a friend is doing? Just ask.
Do you want to see your friends' new house? Just ask.
Do you want a ride to a party? Just ask.
Do you want to go to a baby shower? Just ask.
Do you want a special Zumba class put on for you? Just ask.
The three days passed quickly -- a blur of walks around the neighborhood, laughing til I cried when my friends described the loopy conversations that came post sedation, opening up about the difficulties and blessings of living in New Haven, and catching up with so many kind, good friends I've made over the years. It was all I could have asked for.
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Before I knew it, it was Monday afternoon. I had been staying with my friend Nycole and her family, and in addition to housing me and feeding me, she made sure I was not without sustenance for the plane flight home. "You'll want these," she said as she dumped Cadbury eggs into a Ziploc for me. I did want them.
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| How he entertained himself in the airport. |
How can a trip go wrong when you have Cadbury eggs? It can't. I had a lovely drive back to the airport with my friend Sharon. I got to go in the TSA Pre-Check line. I sat next to a lovely woman who knew as much English as I do Spanish but nonetheless bonded with me using one of the 20 words I remember from Duolingo. "Bonito, bonito, bonito," she gushed as Jacob giggled for her. By the time I found my car in economy parking, my Cadbury eggs were gone, but still my luck lasted and I had a smooth drive home.
"Mommy!" Joseph and Matthew cried with excitement as I approached the house. I wheeled the umbrella stroller in, took Jacob out, and walked into the house. After three refreshing, quiet days, I was back.
